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A commonly misconceived substitute for a healthy ego is egoism. This is understandable, it seems natural to pay attention to the loudest voice, particularly when it exudes confidence.
It is only when one has been recklessly let down, that we realize that the loudest voice in the room offered nothing of substance.
Even then we can suffer bewilderment as to how and why our hopes, and expectations, were shattered by naively placing trust in folk with whom we shouldn't.
It is necessary to transcend self to become anything more.
Over time, once your self has been transcended, that is, you are now In Charge Of Your Thoughts, you will become acquainted with the capability to distinguish States Of Ego in others. Enabling you to much better recognize, who is trustworthy, able, dependable, and wise.
I can accumulate stacks of money, while I am egotistical. Or become an
industry leader by dint of corruption, manipulation, and intimidation. Or . . .
Maybe a national or local political leader by appealing to constituents worries, fears, sense of dependency on authority, and desires. Chucking a dash or two of charm into the mix even. Does indulging egoism help to develop me? Expand my mind? Advance the Human Species? Is it sustainable?
The answer is a resounding no.
An egoist is standing on wafer thin ice. There is little supporting him. Except his inflated opinion of himself. This applies equally to the fairer sex.
In the absence of force an egoist depends on impressing others with how 'great' he is, to get his way.
Self promotion works amazingly well in the presence of impressionable Minds. But
becomes a distinct liability in the eyes of one who understands how the
Human Mind achieves equitable objectives. When an egoist meets opposition from a knowledgeable Mind, misusing force can become an option.
Nevertheless, an egotist should not be outright condemned. Egotism is a mute plea for help. A better way to implement his abilities. Obnoxious as his attitude building may be . . .
An egoist needs support, understanding, and much association with others who are in charge of their egos to help him change his mindset from inwards to outwards, opening it by degree, to the big picture of sound relationships.
The steel trap here is that this must be a decision an egoist makes of his own volition.
This author has a precision metalworking machine-shop. Imagine the product results he would get if the controls on these machines were neither accurate nor reliable?
The results may be hilarious or they may be flat out life or limb threatening.
One thing is for sure, they would not be satisfactory.
Would you persistently use such machines, knowing the results were not predictable?
Did you answer No!!?
It makes no sense, but unpredictable consequences are what we encourage to happen, when we are not Masters of our ego.
Egotism sows, and cultivates, seeds of disorder and eventual havoc.
We fare none the better, by blindly trusting leaders, who would have us believe that they are masters of their ego. Human Beings accept unsatisfactory results, quite oblivious to the fact that we ourselves can engineer fitting solutions. To any problem.
Healthy egos are not blind. They see straight through incompetence and wrongdoing.
Humans are Clever Creatures. Albeit, to become competent problem solvers, it is imperative that we learn how to take charge of our Emotions. It rarely, if ever, just happens.
Learning how to take charge, of our emotions, establishes the foundation and superstructure of our healthy ego. Equipping our inner machine with accurate, dependable, and functional controls.
Taking charge of our emotions, is no less a practiced skill, than any art or discipline requiring applied intelligence.
Excelling in the art of Self Discipline, is of greater relevance to personal achievement, than is scoring high on an Intelligence Quotient test.
A great place to start taking charge of self and building a healthy ego, is realizing which one of the two clubs in life we all belong.
The Not Afraid To Be Wrong Club
Or . . .
The Afraid To Be Wrong Club
It is a baffling, sad fact of life that the quite avoidable default Human condition, is membership of the latter outfit.
However in reality no sadder than the fact that weeds grow by default. Conversely useful plants need to be cultivated and nurtured.
Humans can exercise their individual prerogative, and their responsibility, via cultivating and nurturing their own Mind.
With Loving care.
It requires much Conscious Effort to attain membership of The Not Afraid To Be Wrong Club.
This effort, part of our molding of our self image, to reach the highest status of Master of our diligently cultivated and nurtured ego, is well worth the exertion. For the Sound Reason that doing so accomplishes a number of estimable objectives.
Elevating one's self into the Not Afraid To Be Wrong Club, delivers privileges obtainable in no other way. No one can do this for us. Membership is a composite product of a healthy ego and a healthy self esteem. Cultivating these two fundamental elements of a Positive Mindset, encourages self confidence and self reliance. To become a member of this uncommon club is the sole responsibility of the individual.
Once a member of this Not Afraid To Be Wrong Club, one gets to put into practice his or her undertaking of joy, on the way to becoming a Master . . . Whatever that undertaking may be.
We can confidently expand our taking charge of our Ego efforts. Advancing those efforts to master requisite disciplines, within our innate capabilities.
We embrace the opportunity to intelligently open and expand our mind . . .
Learning and understanding become priorities contributing to the readiness with which we master our innate abilities.
Tolerance becomes second nature. Eliminating, in one simple swoop, a significant portion of Humanities woes.
We can enthusiastically Drop-Kick into Outer Space the useless eagerness to squabble and bicker. Recognizing that arguing has a deleterious effect whenever, and wherever, squabbling and bickering is indulged.
Best of all . . .
It is here, in The Not Afraid To Be Wrong Club, that one recognizes, and meets, trustworthy, useful, dependable, capable, competent, and wise self cultivated others.
From this point on . . .
Cooperating, with Self Cultivated others, in Total Harmony, fitting solutions can be envisaged, developed, and implemented. The forte of a healthy ego in action.
Clever Humans Rock!
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