Self Esteem And Ego
Compose Your Self Image

Our Composite Self

Self Esteem is closely related to Ego, responsive, or reactive, to praise and criticism, and deeply involved with self confidence. Your self esteem and self image reflect your personality, reveal your values, and is expressed via your ego.

Your self esteem and self image reflect your personality, reveal your values, and are expressed via your ego

 Together, Ego and Self Esteem compose your Self Image.

Whilst Ego and Self Esteem are in a Healthy State, your self image will be one of a confident, capable, agreeable, willing, and, of utmost importance, self accepting personality.

A Healthy Mind pursues, and masters, the top shelf Human Qualities these attributes imply.

Mastering first class Human qualities is attained via Personal Development. Mind expansion consolidates one's well-being, and contributes to the cumulative prosperity of society.

That is the Good news. There is also bad news.

Bad News

The bad news is that without the above planned approach applied in an understanding way, Self Image is very much a hit or miss affair.

Self image in the majority of individuals is formed mostly Unconsciously. Composed from the Thoughts we allow ourselves to repeat, the perceptions we form of our Reality, our desires and  experiences, and the consequences of our actions we take in response, or in reaction, to the foregoing.

From birth to the present moment.

Of particular significance is our engagements and interactions with others. How they treat us, and our response, or as is often the case, our reaction, to that treatment.

Self Esteem And Ego On Auto-Pilot

Being subconscious means the image we project is automatic, that is, habitual, with little or no purposeful input by the possessor. Allowing self esteem, and ego, to function on auto pilot.

Frequently heard exclamations, such as  “That's me mate, that's what I'm like”, emphasizes the self limiting Beliefs and broad lack of knowledge towards the possibility of change.

Not being aware that we can take charge of our Self Image is a distinct hindrance to our own well-being in particular, and that of society in general.

More Good News

The good news is that this image we project can be modified and changed Consciously, to reflect the qualities of Character one wishes to display. Although this new image is executed Subconsciously, we can retain our new-found Conscious Awareness of our behavior.

Building High Self Esteem

Building confidence and self esteem, begins with self acceptance. Just as we are, including our prejudices, bias, fears and foibles, and a recognition of our inherent strengths, abilities, and potential.

With a clear picture of who you are and what you stand for in mind, you then have the option of changing or modifying any part of this mix, that you have the audacity to begin, and the stamina to follow through on.

Building confidence and self esteem begins with self acceptance

Self esteem and ego accentuate the spiritual side of our nature. 

Nourishing your Spiritual side is as essential to your general health, productive functioning, and for self fulfillment, as is sustenance for the material body.

The capacity, for attaining, and sustaining, Spiritual nourishment, accompanies the comprehension of how your current Self Image was formed, and the understanding that you can change and modify it at will.

Utilizing the same media that produced the original version of you.

It appears to be in keeping with Nature's modus operandi that anything worthwhile has to be determined Consciously and worked for. A price must be paid.

Innate talent and ability require abiding attention, direction, dedication, deliberate intention, and fervency, to bring to fruition.

Accordingly, Nature's requirements must be considered and implemented when building and maintaining Self Esteem and Ego.

Otherwise, left to chance, one will quite likely, at some time, experience the wretched effects of worthlessness.

Wretched Effects Of Low Self Esteem

An individual who suffers inadequate self esteem lays them-self wide open to perceived attacks on their ego.

A person of high self esteem is living on a higher Mental Plane where the desire to hurt another does not exist

Topping the list of clear indications of this invidious condition is in taking offense, being inclined towards retaliation, and, or, maintaining a vindictive attitude and manner, ever seeking revenge.

Perpetuating a defensive State Of Mind.

Ceaselessly existing in a defensive state of mind not only seriously damages Relationships, accompanied by unpleasant consequences, but it also places one's long term Mental, and Physical, Health in jeopardy.

And alienates Spiritual Succor.

Defending oneself seems to be a natural reaction to a perceived attack. However, the person who takes offense, is as injurious to a situation, as the person who gives offense.

A person giving offense on purpose, reveals that he, too, suffers from an inadequate Self Image.

This should elicit a Compassionate response. And from an individual with healthy self esteem and ego that is exactly what happens. A person of adequate self esteem is living on a higher Mental Plane where the desire to hurt another does not exist.

However, having said that . . .

No one is perfect, not even you or me. When we momentarily fall off the wagon of life, and an understanding other helps us to regain our equilibrium, we can express our gratitude for his or her expanded mind and tolerance.

Wrong Thinking The Culprit

As much as we talk about influencing and directing our Emotions, there will be times when the chemical balance in our Brain will be out of sorts, creating stress. 

By any measure the major cause of transient chemical imbalance is wrong thinking

Perhaps caused by lack of sleep, and or exercise, food allergy or some other organic cause.

Even the best designed and built machines suffer the occasional hiccup.

Yet, by any measure the major cause of transient chemical imbalance is wrong Thinking. Crucially, wrong Thinking relating to Personal Relationships.

Utilizing these energy boosters in association with Right Thinking gleaned from one's knowledge of Natural Law, expressed via Mind Expansion, is the most effective defense against transient chemical imbalance.

If appropriate, one should seek the attention of a knowledgeable, compassionate, and switched on, Mental Health professional.

A professional, who actively practices and promotes principles of Personal Growth, should be sought. Communicating with, and being listened to, by trusted and understanding others, is also therapy of an invaluable kind.

Listening is something we can do for each other at the drop of a hat.


This author's personal response mechanism for these occasions is a heightened awareness of his mood and attitude. In other words, Mindfulness.

Developed, by practice over time, this response mechanism allows him to monitor and direct both his Self Esteem and Ego, as a matter of course, using Positive Thinking to gently guide his brain chemistry back towards equilibrium.        

Diligently following this procedure, highlights the value of setting one's self aside, of the ego, and observing, then adjusting, how one behaves.

Healthy Self Esteem and Healthy Ego Rock!

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